I want you to want me
I need you to need me
I’d love you to love me
How many times have we heard this song? It’s catchy, and beckons is back to the days before marriage when we still put some thought into impressing our significant other (amiright?).
But seriously, I think it should speak wisdom info our married lives as well. And as I found out today, those lyrics carry a biblical message.
The song of a married couple in love
I was a wall, and my breasts were like towers; then I was in his eyes as one who finds peace.
The Song of Solomon 8:10 ESV
The Song of Solomon should remind us that having someone to love and cherish is a great joy. But it’s not just that.
The verse shown above shows that these two love birds didn’t just find joy in loving the other, but they find joy in the other loving them.
I can say from experience as someone who has battled back an addiction to pornography in the power of the Holy Spirit that my wife never needed to simply love me. She needed me to love her and only her.
So let this verse be a reminder to us all: don’t stop trying to woo your spouse. She wants you to want her. Don’t stop protecting your marriage with vigilant wisdom that will keep your heart from straying away. He wants you to want him.
Joy comes when you give your whole self to the other person, and it overflows when they give their whole selves to you.
Protect that. Work at it. She (or he) needs you to need her (or him).